What Heartbreak Taught Me

I hope that this post can help anyone going through a heartbreak, begin the process of healing. This post is a difficult one to put out there, but it is one of the reasons I decided to start this blog; the hope that my experiences can help someone who is going through something similar. Having my heart broken after a year and a half was something I never expected, and as someone that puts my relationships with others above all else, my heart was completely shattered when my relationship ended abruptly and out of the blue. However, I learned so much about myself, what I am looking for, and feel stronger than I have ever been! Every friendship that I had, was immensely strengthened, and I made so many new friendships that I never expected. Here are some things that it taught me, some ways I got through it, and how I thrived. I hope this can help anyone in the first stage of heartbreak when it seems impossible to get through.

• Nothing is more important than the women in your life. Women that I have never talked to, ones that I sometimes talked to, and my best friends that I talk to every single day, reached out to me and were there for me every second of every day.

• It is okay to reach out to anyone and everyone. People care, they really do.

• Finding activities that you love and keeping yourself busy with positive things are important.

• It is okay to unfollow your ex on every piece of social media. You need to move on with your life and seeing theirs won’t help.

• “You are enough. You are so enough. It is incredible how enough you are.”

• Your parents will feel your pain just as deeply as you feel it.

• Having a protective brother (or sibling) who loves you so much, helps a lot.

• Disney movies and cookies are always a good cure.

• Eat. Eat. Eat. I know you might feel sick to your stomach, but not eating won’t help.

• Realize your strength and your worth. Do not wait around for someone who doesn’t treat you the way you deserve.

• There is a difference between boys and men.

• Spoil yourself. Go get your nails done, get your hair done, go out to lunch, anything to make you feel confident and beautiful.

• Don’t feel like you have to hide the way you feel at any point. My friends have heard me talk and talk and talk and they listened and supported every time.

• Get rid of all the stuff related to your ex. You don’t want to see it or need to see it.

• Almost every woman (and man) has gone through a heartbreak.

• Pray.

• Look up quotes on Pinterest. I promise you will find inspirational quotes about love, hope, and happiness that will make you believe things get better.

• Hangout with friends every chance you get. Go to the movies, have ladies night, do photoshoots, go to lunch, go swimming, take a day trip. Enjoy all the little things with the people you love.

• Let yourself cry as much as you need to, then pick yourself up and continue on with your day.

• Go to work. Don’t call out. Being in your regular routine will help you remember you have a life that is important to live.

• Write your feelings down.

• Talk things out. Your friends are on your side 110% and hearing them agree with you and nod their heads will help validate your feelings.

• Rewatch a tv show that you love and movies that you love.

• Cuddle with your pets. Animal therapy is a real thing.

• Go out in the sun. Soaking up some rays helps, I promise.

• Workout.

• Ask your Dad (or trusted male figure) what type of man they see you with. They won’t lie to you and will make you realize you deserve the world.

• List all of your accomplishments and how proud you are of yourself. You are more than enough without your ex and you don’t need them (or anyone) to complete you.

• Realize that significant others are there to build you up and make you better, not tear you down.

• Make a Spotify playlist with songs that make you happy. Carrie Underwood, Beyoncé, Taylor Swift, Demi Lovato, Selena Gomez, and Ariana Grande (to name a few) have some great songs about girl power.

• Text your friends, call your friends, DM your friends, FaceTime your friends. They will reply, they will answer, and they will show up every single time.

• Ask your married friends about their exes. They will tell you stories way worse than your own that make you realize your perfect someone is out there.

• Sing and Dance. Paint, draw, write poetry. Whatever helps you express your feelings in a healthy way.

• Let yourself cry and accept hugs when people ask “are you okay?” We all know that is the deadly question when you are emotionally unstable.

• Your friends are key. They will be there no matter what.

• Know that things will get better.

• Time heals. It truly does.

I could go on and on and on, but these are some of the things that made me stronger through my breakup. This was one of the hardest things I’ve had to emotionally go through and at the time, I didn’t know how I was ever going to get through it. My heart was shattered and I felt broken. One day I woke up and finally felt myself again. Time healed, the way they say it does and at the end of the day, you have to realize who you are and what you deserve. Don’t lower your standards for anyone and don’t let anyone make you feel like you aren’t enough. Feel what you need to feel and know that your friends and family love you and will be there for you through every step of the way. Know that someone who loves you would put you as a priority and give you the world. Don’t forget what makes you you and how amazing you are. Remember that you are strong on your own, you lived your own life before them, and you will continue to do so after them, and be so much better for it. I sure am. Finally, realize that every princess has to kiss a few frogs before finding their prince.

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